Another "is he gay/does he like me" question
Here we go again: I have a co-worker. Every female co-worker I talk to says he's to feminine and half of the male co-workers thinks he's gay. He has never uttered a word about it. He came out of a long relationship with a girl and wants to go back. (Been there). So he's a damage case to say the least.
Here come the arguments: he's very touchy feely and not in the straight way, I have another colleague who dry humps me when he sees me and I know thats in a straight and fun way. My vision might be clouded because I like this boy but he lays he arm around my waist (at work). I work in a restaurant so its not like he does it in a trusted private manner, so it might just be him being himself. But it's weird for two boys publicly no? Anyway, he lays his arms around my waist and that kind of stuff. Last I saw him hugging another colleague (not coincidentally a very buff, sporty co worker in a suit, I'd hug him too if I wouldn't get horny). And the colleague in question always says things as "I'm always happy when I see you" and stuff like that, which can mean absolutely nothing and is just jokingly slimy.
But here comes the kicker that made me write this: he called me the other night. I missed the call (it was at eleven) so I texted him (we've been texting semi-often lately) why he called and he said (the next morning) sorry, I was drunk.
AND WHO DO WE CALL WHEN WE'RE DRUNK?
My point exactly.
Ok, these are the facts, I would like your opinion on all of this. Of course I realize there's a big fat chance that even with his love for wines, delicate food, his high pitched voice, his soft skin, his dreamy eyes etc. he's totally straight or is in fact gay, but doesn't like me, I still can't resist the thought. I like him, but I might need to stop my feelings before they get hurt.
I'm just wondering what you think
So, Im a Bi gut im 21. I truly am bisexual and far more attracted to females than males. My first experience with a guy would have ben when I was 13 i jerked guys of and they did the same for me. I did it because i wanted to touch there dicks, they did it to get jerked off. I sucked dick when I was 18 it sucked I don't really know why but it just did I wasn't really in to it. since then I have sucked many guys and I love to 69 with guys. I'm more of a top and Like to fuck guys. Yet I'm far more attracted to girls. I have had more sex with a few girls but les sex with more guys. I like both I'm not a repressed gay guy. My parents thought i was gay and told me it was fine act. and all my friends know i have sex with guys. I just like girls more but , I guess its easier to get with a guy because it tends to be along the lines "hey , want to fuck?" and i don't get looked at like a pervert i just get a straight yes or no. But the first time i got fucked i had the 3 most amazing orgasams of my life. Yet what i still want most is sex with girls and 69-ing with guys and not to be fucked or fucke by/with guys. Do you think I'm weird? What do you think about my sexuality ?
A. Your still bisexual . Bisexuality is not limited to the sex acts you perform with men or women. Enjoy yourself without worrying about defining what it is. And trust me you are far from weird.
My First Boyfriend: A Three Days Relationship?
On Wednesday, the day before yesterday, I went out on a date with a guy whom I met on Plenty of Fish. (We've chatted for 3 months straight on PoF)
Yesterday, Thursday, we had sex at one of his friend's place (with his friend's approval, of course).
And today, I'm thinking about breaking up with him.
He's officially my first boyfriend and I like him but sex with him isn't so great.
During our date, I told him about my anonymous hook ups and that I'm not a Virgin. And he told me that he's not a Virgin either. He's dated two guys before. First one was when he's still in high school. Second, when he was out of high school.
His first boyfriend moved away after high school and his second boyfriend cheated on him with a mutual friend of theirs'. He cried for two weeks straight before bed, or so he says.
About sex, I'm Versatile. I like to top and bottom. He told me that he's also Versatile (during our date). But he lied. He's more of a Dominant/Total Top when we were having sex! He wanted me to let him bareback me but I resisted. I made him put on a condom and he pinned me down after that. It was pretty hot at first until he wouldn't slow down. I asked to flip but he was like, "No. I don't bottom." My thoughts were, "WTF?" It was starting to sting and I begged him to pull out for a minute or so, but he wouldn't. He kept going. He told me to endure it and I did... And the worst part is, just as the pain was going numb and it was just starting to feel good, he's already done! While he got all the pleasure, I got none! I confronted him about being selfish afterward and he said it was my fault for moaning and grunting so much because it's a big turn ON for him! And that he did try to go on for a longer period but I'm just too tight. He couldn't hold back, he had to shoot.
This morning he texted me that he's sorry and he wants to get together again later and... I just don't feel like it. I didn't reply to his text. What should I do? Should I just call it off?
In all honestly, the idea of having a boyfriend is nice and I've always wanted a boyfriend but this is not how I imaged it to be. I don't know.. maybe I'm naive?
We're both 20, by the way.
EDIT: So... are you saying there's no shame in saying, "I only like you as a friend now" after I already said, "Yes." when he asked me if I wanted to be his Boyfriend? I don't want him to assume I was only looking for sex... I mean, I really do like him.. but NOT sex with him.
Our chats on PoF were innocent... PG-13 Stuff.. It wasn't until we met, face-to-face, that we started discussing about sex roles and stuff.
A. There is absolutely nothing wrong with ending this relationship if its not to your liking. You should feel no shame in saying that you just want to be friends. A selfish lover is best left for someone else to deal with.
My Boyfriend Cheated On Me Should I Take Him Back
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year. A mutual friend of ours admitted to sleeping with my boyfriend. My boyfriend told me it was a drunk night when we had argued . Even though that is bs I still love him and want to work it out. Am I dumb? Ugh idk what to do?
A. If you love him and truly want to work it out I would say go for it. But you need to keep in mind that there is a possibility that he would do it again. Do you have to wonder every time that the two of you argue if he's gonna cheat. Trust is hard to regain once its lost and continuing a relationship with him will be difficult on your part because you will always have to keep your guard up where he's concerned.
